By Dr. Pat Saxon
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August 14, 2025
READING In Celebration of the Life of Andrea Gibson (8/13/75-7/14/25) Lines from their words of inspiration: “When nothing softens grief, may grief soften me.” “When I realized the storm was inevitable, I made it my medicine.” “In the end, I want my heart to be covered in stretch marks.” WORDS OF HOPE Many years ago a student introduced me to Andrea Gibson—a queer spoken word poet and eventually poet laureate of Boulder, Colorado. Like so many who were drawn to them, I found power in their wrestling with LGBT+ issues in a language that was bold, fresh, achingly sensitive, and vulnerable. They deplored customary binaries of all sorts and once said they thought their gender would be changing up until the time of their death. Several months ago I was re-introduced to Andrea via their Substack posts with poetry and the most stunning photographs of the Colorado landscape where they live with their wife Megan and three well-loved dogs. Several years ago, Andrea was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, the disease which would claim their earthly life. They speak openly of having feared cancer all their life, but once the bell had tolled, they experienced a spiritual transformation, seeing through the eyes of love and gratitude even the smallest things. During their treatment, part of them wanted to keep the pain from readers, but with characteristic courage, they stepped through the door of silence to voice their truth. One compelling poem during this time is “MAGA Hat in the Chemo Room.” The work begins with anger that MAGA man has violated the rules of the chemo room forbidding clothing with political slogans—a rule Andrea adheres to though almost everything she owns signals her values. Their honoring “clothes neutrality” is in part an acknowledgement that everyone in the room is struggling for their lives. In the course of the poem, anger gets transformed into compassion for each person in the acute awareness of shared mortality. Andrea also imagines that the Holy Trinity reveals God’s nonbinary nature and that in heaven gays will enter first. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WCX-0zJTEbk After Gibson’s death, tributes poured in from all kinds of people—artists and poets, collaborators and friends, the Governor or Colorado and readers who have been impacted by their work. Linda Williams Stay tells how her son Aiden once took her to see Andrea in an amazing performance and how he continued to share their poetry as a way of helping her understand his experience as a young transgender man. The morning of Andrea’s death, Aiden called to tell her and together they grieved this loss. He sobbed, “Andrea saved my life, mom.” Linda responded, “I know.” Months before her death, Andrea wrote a moving poem to their wife Meg called “Love Letter from the Afterlife,” in which they assert: “Dying is the opposite of leaving. When I left my body, I did not go away. That portal of light was not a portal to elsewhere, but a portal to here. I am more here than I ever was before.” Oh, that each grieving person could know such intimate resurrection. https://stephaniecarney.substack.com/p/love-letter-from-the-afterlife (text) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QmZHLvq-gDg (spoken) A documentary of Andrea’s life “Come See Me in the Good Light” showed at the Sundance Festival this year and garnered the Festival Favorite prize. It will be shown on Apple TV+ this fall. Rest in power, Radiant Spirit. PRAYER God of Expansive Love, Before [we] die, [may we] be somebody’s favorite hiding place, the place they can put everything they know they need to survive, every secret, every solitude, every nervous prayer, and be absolutely certain [we] will keep it safe. [We] will keep it safe. Amen. (Prayer adapted from Adrea Gibson’s words.) DEVOTION AUTHOR Dr. Pat Saxon